If you’ve been following our blog for a while then you know I am a planner. It is of course pretty much a given then, that I am a big fan of New Year’s Resolutions. I am definitely a ‘reach for the moon, even if you miss you will still land among the stars’ kinda girl! I love to set goals for myself and our family and although we don’t always achieve them, I really believe that they give us direction for our year, a plan towards the things that are most important to us at this point in time.
At the start of each new year, Matt and I usually sit down and come up with a ‘Top 5’ goals that we would each like to achieve personally. We like to have a couple of ‘family goals’ as well. I then put these up on our whiteboard, so they are there in plain site for us all (even the kids now that they are learning to read) to see them. The whiteboard also usually has a rolling monthly ‘to do list’ and our weekly meal plan on it.
We went round the table at breakfast on New Year’s Day morning and asked what our New Year’s Resolutions were;
Lexi – “to build a swimming pool for my birthday” (hmm, think we might have to talk about ‘realistic goal setting’ before next year!)
Toby – “to learn how to ride my skateboard without falling off”
Jack – “to read all of the Narnia Books in the series, even the boring ones”
Matt – “to learn how to better deal with things that don’t work or go wrong”
Jess – “to have some time to myself to do something fun before bub comes”
We have really struggled this year though, to find what the Fealy Family focus is. We don’t have any big holidays planned, we’re not really sure what our careers are doing at the moment, we don’t have a clue how a typical farm year plays out so it is tricky to make plans for going away, we aren’t living in our own home so no major renovating is going to happen, and we’ve kind of forgotten what we used to do for fun!
At first, I was really frustrated by this, worried that we had ‘fallen off the wagon’ and weren’t going to achieve anything in 2014. But, as the first month of the year has gone by already, I’ve come to the realisation that it is ok not to have some major project planned, that this year can just be a year of consolidation. I’m calling 2014 a Building Block Year. Sure, not as exciting as the year we had last year, but I think ‘building block’ years are just as important in the scheme of things for the big dreams! These are the years that lay the foundations for the long term goals to eventuate. This is a head down, bum up, work hard, look around, time out to think and plan, year. I hope this makes sense to all of you, it does to us!
I did manage to come up with a Top 5 for myself which I am going to share here just so you can hold me accountable (and I can check back and see how I went in 12 months time)! These are not ‘I’d like to’s or I will try to’s”, these are my ‘I will do’s for 2014!
Jess Top 5 2014
1. Get the trip blogging finished and blog more regularly. Learn some new blog/writing skills.
2. Get baby nursery organised and baby things purchased and ready to welcome Bub No 4.
3. Re-instate ‘Bell Girls Weekend’ for 2014 (a yearly weekend away with my Mum and sisters)
4. Lose 10 kilos after Bub is born through daily excerise routine (30mins everyday!)
5. Finally print out a photo album of baby photos for each of the kids for their birthday’s.
I’m also going to do this great idea that I saw floating around Facebook at the start of the year;
And Our Top 3 Fealy Family Goals 2014
1. No TV during the week
2. One week away camping, with at least two long weekend camping trips.
3. One ‘family only’ outing per month.
I feel better and much more organised already just for putting these up on here! So, what about you? Do you make New Year’s Resolution’s or goals for the year? Put them down below and I’ll check up on you in a year’s time!!